An arrangement is significant in a sugar dating relationship. A sugar baby and sugar daddy have to agree to certain terms to make their relationship work.
Are you wondering how a sugar daddy and sugar baby make their relationship work? What do they do to be together given their not-so-ordinary type of affair?
Maintaining a sugar relationship is not easy because unlike most romance, this doesn’t really start with a spark. Both parties are not looking for love. Most are upfront that they don’t want drama and would prefer no strings attached. The secret to making this type of relationship work is — arrangement!
We will give you an overview of what to expect when making a sugar daddy arrangement. So, let’s get started!
What is a sugar daddy arrangement?
An arrangement refers to the negotiated and agreed upon terms between a sugar daddy (or mommy) and the sugar baby. The importance of this is that it allows both parties to air their expectations and behaviors, so they can enjoy a mutually beneficial relationship.
An arrangement should be based on honesty and the common desire to enjoy each other’s company. The couple should discuss and outline what they want. Once the arrangement is in place and both the sugar daddy and sugar baby agree, then they can move forward in their exciting relationship.
In the next section, we will cover the different types of arrangements.
Types of sugar arrangements
There are a number of sugar daddy arrangements available and you have to determine what’s best for you. Your arrangement could be one or a combination of the following.
Mentorship is a relationship between a more experienced or knowledgeable sugar daddy and a less experienced and knowledgeable sugar baby. The mentor has a certain area of expertise because this arrangement is a learning and development partnership.
This type of arrangement applies to sugar daddies who are “specifically attracted to motivated women” and sugar babies who want to be mentored to further their career.
Sugar daddies have the connection, experience, knowledge and expertise. Due to these attributes, they make a good mentor.
Sugar daddies want an uncomplicated relationship for a number of reasons perhaps due to busy schedule, demanding work, or too much drama in their family life. So, some of them just want a companion.
This arrangement works very well for sugar daddies who just need someone to listen to them. Also, there are sugar babies who are very upfront about the type of relationship that they want and some of them are honest enough to say that friendship and companionship are the only things they can offer because they do not want to be intimate.
3. Travel companion
A number of sugar daddies have to make business trips due to the nature of their job. Traveling alone is boring, so some tend to invite someone to take along with them. Sugar daddies usually do this and the good thing is, there are sugar babies with wanderlust who are willing to accompany them.
Being a travel companion is a dream come true to sugar babies who wish to visit various places, experience new culture and meet new people. This arrangement is perfect for traveling sugar daddies and sugar babies who wish to experience the world.
There are sugar baby sites and sugar daddy apps that cater to this particular arrangement. If you are interested, check out MissTravel. The sugar babies in the sites are interested and willing to accompany sugar daddies in their trips locally or abroad.
4. Sexual relationship
Sugar dating is actually very different from prostitution because this doesn’t necessarily involve sex. However, there are cases when a sugar baby and a sugar daddy share an intimate relationship.
This thing may be included in the agreement so that the two parties know how much they are willing to give and take. This also helps with your expectations of each other.
This agreement is not illegal. According to Zita Spencer, a solicitor at Olliers, “if consenting adults come to an arrangement between themselves to pay for sex, no offense has taken place.”
“The focus of the law over the years has been on preventing nuisance to the public and other offenses often associated with prostitution such as drug abuse, exploitation, and trafficking,” she explained.
“If members come to an agreement between themselves regarding payment for sexual activity then that is a matter for them, but not a criminal offense,” Spencer clarified.
5. Online relationship only (sending pictures)
This is probably the safest arrangement that you will ever find because it doesn’t require any meetup. Both of you are safe from the comfort of your home and only communicate online.
You are safe in the sense that you are sure there will no sexual contact or physical abuse. If any of the sugar baby or sugar daddy feel uncomfortable, they can just ignore the other.
The catch in this arrangement is that the sugar daddy might ask for photos. The pictures might be sexy or nude depending on your agreement. Aside from sending photos, others do phone sex.
Most still find this more comfortable as they only do the act away from each other. Also, it’s very convenient as you don’t have to go somewhere and meet each other. No one will see you together in public.
Please take note that for arrangements that involve meetups, you have to agree where you will meet. It’s best if you agree to meet in public places for your safety especially on your first encounter. If the sugar dating relationship continues, you might have to agree on visiting the sugar daddy or sugar baby’s place.
Aside from the type of relationship that you would share, you have to discuss your payment arrangement. This another important factor that you shouldn’t miss. A sugar baby and sugar daddy relationship is treated as a job by most, so money should be discussed.
When it comes to your payment arrangement you should agree on these things: when you will be paid, in what way, how much and how often will you meet. We will discuss each of this below.
When to receive sugar baby allowance
If you are wondering when to receive your sugar daddy allowance, you can have it either weekly, monthly or every time you meet. You have to decide for yourself, which is the best arrangement for you.
Weekly. This gives you more flexibility financially as you will receive money every week. You don’t have to wait too long to sustain your lifestyle or meet your needs.
Monthly. If your agreed amount is big enough to sustain you for a whole month, then you can have it monthly. However, you have to be more cautious with your money because if you don’t know how to manage it, then it will be a long wait before you get your next round of allowance.
Bi-Monthly. If the sugar daddy doesn’t want to send weekly allowance and the sugar baby finds it too long to wait for a monthly allowance, then this arrangement is the answer.
Every meeting. If you meet frequently, then this arrangement would mean that you will get to receive your allowance more often. This also means that you will have more money. However, if you don’t meet often then you will only have an allowance once in a blue moon and not to mention, irregular cash flow.
How often should you meet?
Part of your arrangement should be the frequency of your meetups. This plays a huge part when it comes to the amount of the allowance provided and how often the allowance will be given. Your encounters may depend on both of your schedules and on the quality of your relationship.
When sugar daddies and sugar babies enjoy each other’s company, chances are high that they will meet again and again. When your encounters become regular, you should include it in your arrangement.
Some sugar daddies and sugar babies made it a point to meet at least two or more times a week. Some agreed for a few times a month.
Regardless of how often you agreed to meet, the payment agreement should be pushed through. However, take note that failing to uphold this part of the agreement might also affect the payment.
How to receive sugar daddy allowance
There are various ways to receive an allowance. Here’s a list, so you can agree on what works best for the two of you.
Cash. You can opt to receive your allowance in cold, hard cash. However, it’s kind of awkward for sugar daddies to hand over a stuffed envelope to sugar babies after their meeting. Also, the disadvantage with cash is that it’s untraceable, so if you lost it, it’s gone for good.
Bank deposit. This is another popular way to receive an allowance and compared to cash, this is much safer because you don’t need to hide your money as you don’t have it. However, you need to provide personal information including your name, account number and name of your bank. If you choose this arrangement, you should agree when the sugar daddy would deposit money on your account. You can have it weekly, bi-monthly or monthly.
PayPal. This is another super convenient way to receive money. Also, you’re safe because you don’t need to give out any personal information. The only needed data is your email address. It’s instant, fast, and convenient.
Other Peer-to-Peer Payment. This option is as good as PayPal because it’s also instant, fast and secured. It doesn’t require any personal details so there’s no chance for a potential sugar daddy to scam you. If you are interested in this, check out SquareCash, Google Wallet and Venmo.
Pre-Paid Card. This is convenient and easy. It offers the same benefits as cash because it’s untraceable. However, this is safer as you do not carry the cash but you can withdraw the money from the card.
Bill Payment. Unlike the other arrangements, sugar babies who agree with this don’t receive as much cash because the sugar daddies take care of everything the rent, tuition, and other bills. For this, sugar babies have to disclose their bills and personal information.
Bitcoin. This infamous cryptocurrency is no longer the sole domain of drug dealers and money launderers. In fact, this is one of the safest options because it keeps both parties anonymous which lessens the risk of scams and identity theft. The downside with this is that it may take some tech knowledge to handle. In addition, Bitcoin’s value fluctuates a lot.
What’s the most reasonable sugar dating allowance?
The most reasonable allowance may depend on your area because there are certain cities where sugar babies receive more. Sugar daddies in top cities like New York, Los Angeles or San Francisco tend to give higher allowances. Sugar babies in smaller cities received slightly lower allowances with the difference ranging from a hundred to thousands of dollars.
You should consider the living expenses in your city when you ask for an allowance. Also, take note that this is something that both parties should agree on. To give you an overview, a pay per visit may cost you $300 and more. Meanwhile, a monthly allowance may range from $1000 to $10,000.
There are various sugar daddy arrangements available and you can decide for yourself which is the best for you. You can be a friend, travel buddy, sexual partner or an online sugar baby only.
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